We just surveyed 500 of our subscribers about weight loss
topics. Their replies were very revealing.
As you know 95% of dieters manage to lose weight only to
put it all on again within a year.
Our survey shows is that 68% of dieters fail because they
just gradually slip back into their old eating habits.
This isn't really so surprising when you think about
popular diets which recommend that you drink only
grapefruit juice, or tomato juice or cabbage soup or eat
only cheese. Can you really imagine anyone eating only
cheese for the rest of their life? Or drinking only cabbage
soup for the rest of their life?
Of course they backslide!
"I am a Stress Eater"
What really interested me, and what every dieter should be
aware of, is the way that people start backsliding.
The language that people seeking to lose weight use when
they talk to themselves would appear to be a major cause of
their undoing.
A Respondent told us: "I am a stress eater."
Now who do you think hears when they say this? They do, of
course. So every time they say, "I am a stress eater," it
serves to reinforce their own belief that they are indeed a
stress eater.
The statement is either a justification for a bad habit or
a cry for sympathy.
But, does anyone else care about why they over-eat? No.
This is what I call Bad Language. An example of someone
using language that only serves to reinforce their bad
habit.
This person needs to start telling themselves and everyone
else: "I used to be a stress eater, but now I have healthy
eating habits."
A positive statement like this will earn them a lot more
respect from others and create a much more positive
attitude towards food.
"It's Easy To Go To McDonalds Because It Is Fast"
In the time it takes to stand in line to be served with a
burger, fries and a cola I could whip up a tasty salad and
peel a banana.
This is yet another example of someone justifying a bad
eating habit by suggesting that they're too busy to do
anything other than visit McDonalds.
This form of laziness is a disaster for your waistline. The
calories and trans fats in those burgers take hours to burn
off. I recently made a calculation that you would need to
walk over 10 miles to burn off the calories in a burger
lunch.
The statement above is a more subtle form of bad language,
because it seeks to justify a bad eating habit by saying,
"it's not my fault that I eat the wrong stuff, I'm too
stressed out and busy doing good work to have the time to
prepare a healthy meal."
That is seriously bad language. Read between the lines.
What it is suggesting is, "I don't care enough about my
body to be bothered with healthy food. I'm just too busy."
It's an excuse which says: "My body doesn't matter to me."
Where does this person think they're going to get another
body when they've clogged this one up with trans fats?
"A Way To Stop Me Bingeing and Purging"
Are you seeing a pattern here?
They are all telling themselves what they do. This one is
saying, "I binge and purge." So of course they do just
that. This is yet another example of bad language.
I could give you a load more examples, but I hope you've
got the message by now.
Whatever you say, no matter who you say it to, one of the
people who hears you, is you. And what you hear about
yourself serves to reinforce you habits and self image.
Will Good Language Help You?
Yes, good language will help, of course it will.
The major benefits of changing your language to good
language are:
You will have to start listening more closely to the
language you use so that you can spot the bad language and
change it.
You will have to think of positive things to say.
You will have to think about what you're saying.
Gradually your habit of using bad language will change as
you develop a new habit of using more positive, good
language.
What Else Can You Do To Help You Lose Weight?
The three keys to successful weight loss are:
Eating healthy foods
Exercising regularly
Good mental and emotional discipline
The trick is to find ways to change your eating and
exercise habits that are interesting and stimulating and
that fit in with your daily routines.
If you're going to change your eating and exercising habits
you sure don't need to be changing a whole lot of other
routines as well.
We're all creatures of habit. We do a lot of the things we
do in our daily lives on auto-pilot. One of the major
tricks to losing weight is to change as few of these
auto-pilot habits as possible.
The fewer changes you make the more comfortable you are
likely to feel with what you are doing.
It's all very well to start out on a new diet with a noble
feeling that you are helping yourself, but how long can you
sustain that noble feeling for before you become bored?
Reshaping your body has to become a part of a new healthier
lifestyle that interferes with the lifestyle you have
carefully built up to the absolute minimum amount.
Using good, positive language will help you make the
changes with the minimum of fuss and bother.
----------------------------------------------------
David Ferrers M.NLP is has been a professional Personal
Development Coach for 21 years. With his Nutritionist
Partner Susanne Floe he developed
http://www.GoneForeverWeightLoss.com to enable people to
discover how to use self-hypnosis to lose weight
permanently and painlessly. Both David and Susanne have
personally used the techniques they recommend to
successfully lose weight and maintain the weight loss.
No comments:
Post a Comment