Fear and loneliness are two very powerful, complex and
unpleasant emotions. As you are probably aware, both
emotions can manifest physically. For example, if you are
scared of snakes then you will experience fear at the
physical presence of snakes. However, they can also affect
you emotionally, often without you realising. In this
article I will be discussing the emotional fear of the
unknown, emotional loneliness and how to overcome them.
The fear of the unknown refers to fears that are based on
absolutely nothing but act as mental obstacles. It
prevents you from reaching your full potential in a number
of areas of your life. Everytime you approach
unfamiliarity in your life this fear of the unknown
manifests itself and prevents you from taking further
action. Instead you choose to do nothing and remain in
your own personal comfort zone. For example, maybe you are
used to being single. You start to get close to someone
but as the relationship develops you get scared and back
away. You may come up with a number of excuses but the
real reason holding you back is likely to be a fear of
entering into the unknown waters of a new relationship.
The fear of the unknown is not a dangerous condition but it
can limit you in multiple areas of your life.
Loneliness is potentially a more dangerous emotional state
which in the worst cases can lead to depression and
suicide. Emotional loneliness does not have to be
associated with physical loneliness. You can be physically
alone but still remain happy. Instead, the emotion of
loneliness is often linked with personal insecurities which
make you think that you are isolated from others. For
example, maybe you feel like a social outcast because you
do not have a partner. This is not true because lots of
single people are perfectly happy and are certainly not
social outcasts. It is just an emotional state.
So how can you overcome these two mental afflictions? Well
the first step is to identify that you are actually
suffering from them. If you are constantly affected by
feelings of rejection and/or have real trouble taking
chances in your life, the signs of emotional loneliness and
the fear of the unknown are present.
Once you have identified the problem you can begin to take
action. Below I have outlined 3 ideas to help you overcome
these emotional states:
1) TAKE UP AN ACTIVITY THAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO DO:-
Maybe you have always wanted to join the local soccer team
but you made excuses not to? Well now is the time to dive
in and do that special activity. Not only will this
involve taking a chance and help you defeat your fear of
the unknown, but it will also place you in a social
situation allowing you to bond with others and rise above
feelings of isolation.
2) GO TRAVELLING:- If we are being honest, most of us have
ambitions to see the world and go travelling. However, the
fear of the unknown keeps us trapped in a pretty routine
lifestyle so that this is never possible. Now I know for
some people going travelling is simply not possible but if
you sit down and think "is it really not possible or am I
just making excuses?" you may be surprised at the answer.
Going travelling represents a huge leap into the unknown.
Therefore, it is a great way to overcome your fear of the
unknown. Plus, you will meet all kinds of people on your
travels and start to feel accepted.
3) FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF:- This one is probably the most
important. If you cannot love yourself is it fair to ask
others to love you? If you do not accept yourself as a
person then it is no wonder you feel isolated. No matter
what your physical condition or your financial
circumstances, you need to start thinking about yourself
positively. Once you start to think about yourself
positively you will develop a new found sense of
confidence. This confidence will help you destroy the
feelings of loneliness and allow you to take more risks,
helping you overcome your fear of the unknown.
In conclusion, to overcome any potential problems you first
need to look at your behaviours. If you find yourself
behaving in a way that reflects loneliness or fear of the
unknown you then need to do something about it. The above
article lists 3 of the many potential solutions. Do
something that involves you taking a chance and lets you
meet other people, and in time you will forget these
negative emotions ever existed.
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