To Quit Smoking - Making A Change

To Quit Smoking - Making A Change
Anytime someone succeeds at making a change in their life,
it is the result of something more than just discipline and
willpower. Regarding someone who wants to stop smoking who
will be dealing with physical withdrawals, it is a little
more difficult but it can be done, and in fact, is done -
all the time. Perhaps not by you YET, but that doesn't mean
you will never succeed with your attempts to quit smoking.

I see it all the time; people trying to loose weight,
trying to quit smoking, trying to accomplish something but
always falling back to the old way. Often times, they will
succeed for awhile but it doesn't stick and they end up
back where they were. This usually is the result of trying
to succeed by applying discipline and willpower. It gets
you going in the right direction but then you tire out and
fall back.

Changing something about yourself is really not about
changing. It is about "exchanging"- exchanging one way for
another. How is this different? Changing requires you to
control your behavior. This is done by the suppressing of
your natural tendencies. Over time, this suppression only
frustrates you. This is why it doesn't work in the long-run.

Exchanging - is to switch tracks altogether. It is a very
different mindset. It is about replacing one life for
another, instead of trying to control the current life.
This means that, to some degree, you become a different
person. To some degree you are "exchanging" one person for
another.

This is a good thing. This is part of the process of
maturity. This is why in my articles and in my book I
emphasize personal development as part of a persons program
to quit smoking. This understanding applies to all areas of
a life where something needs to be different.

In the case of the smoker who understands what I am saying
here, this person doesn't just stop smoking (which only
controls the behavior). Instead, this person actually
becomes a non-smoker (a different person to some degree).

Smoking is supportive of the very person that you are. When
someone is truly ready to be a different person, they no
longer need that reinforcement because that person they are
reinforcing is no longer who they are. Again, I say - it is
about "exchanging"; one person for another, one lifestyle
for another, one set of values for another.

So then, the question really becomes; do you only want to
quit the behavior - or - do you desire to become a
different person, to some degree?

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Frank Andrews is the author of two self-help books. This
developed as the result of being a student of personal
development for over 25 years. Having worked through many
of his own personal struggles, he now provides information
to help others. You can find free quit-smoking information
on his website at: http://www.AnswersToQuitSmoking.com