Like any muscle, your sexual health requires exercise. Here
are 12 tips to put your sexual health in peak form.
1. Break the Routine:
Is it the missionary position with the man on top? Are the
lights always off? Is sex just for the bedroom? It's the
time to ditch the rut and put some zest into your sex. Get
a copy of the Kama Sutra, experiment with sex toys (yes,
they're quite acceptable!) and for no cost at all, try a
different position in every room in the house.
2. Think and Feel Sexy:
Great sex isn't about the orgasm (although they're great
too!). Sexual health is being comfortable with your
sexuality and feeling sexy all day long. Stop to enjoy the
sexual images all around you. Allow your sexual feelings to
rise and linger. Only you will know that you're taking care
of your sexual health.
3. Express Yourself:
Let's face it. If you want better sex, then start talking
about what you want. Satisfying sex comes from the love and
trust expressed between the people sharing in it. If you're
sitting on a mountain of unresolved issues about your
relationship, your body image or low libido, it's time to
put the spotlight on it and give it your attention.
4. Banish the Stress:
Great sex comes from an inner desire to express passion and
intimacy. However, currents of intimacy are delicate and
won't find their way through the layers of stress that
you've accumulated throughout the day. Leave the job, the
kids, the in-laws and everything else at the bedroom door.
5. Work Those Muscles:
Good sex becomes great sex when your body is in a healthy
condition. Sex is a physical workout which requires
control, flexibility and endurance. And if you suffer from
incontinence or weakened vaginal muscles, you'll also want
to include Kegel exercises in your routine.
6. Ditch the Drugs:
Prescription drugs are bad news when it comes to a healthy
sex life. Common drugs for high blood pressure and
anti-depressant medicines and can lead to a decreased
libido in women. Since most prescription drugs have adverse
side effects, it's best to find a physician who will
recommend healthy alternatives to the drug routine.
7. Lose the Fat:
With over 60% of Americans overweight or obese, all that
excess fat between the sheets is not a pretty picture. If
you can't see your genitals when you're standing up and
can't tell the difference between your breasts and your
belly, it's time to shape up. Not only will the sex
improve, your whole life will take on a new look.
8. Butt Out:
Having a cigarette after sex is a tired cultural image.
Smoking is just a bad habit that also constricts the blood
vessels and inhibits blood flow to the vagina. And besides,
who wants to have sex with a dirty ashtray?
9. Know Your Body:
Rhythms We're creatures of habit and we feel comforted by
predictable routines. Our bodies also have natural daily
and monthly rhythms such as their menstrual cycle. Get in
touch with the natural highs and lows of your sexual desire
and use the highs to engage in sex and the lows to exhale.
Don't fight the rhythms and force sex; prepare for them.
10. Eliminate the Distractions:
When an opportunity to engage in sex arises, it should
totally consume you... and your lover. Turn off the
television, hang up on your mother-in-law, ignore the
credit card statement and forget about work. This is your
time; don't let anything distract you.
11. Read, Watch and Learn:
There's a lot more to sex than knowing the mechanics of how
the pieces fit together. Make your sexual health a priority
and a continual learning experience. Read magazines,
articles and advice columns - there's always something to
learn. Watch sexy movies and learn from the many excellent
educational videos on exploring and enjoying sex.
12. Make Sex Fun:
Remember when it was? When we were young and discovering
the power of our sexuality, sex was fun and we couldn't get
enough. Where did the fun go? Review these 12 tips and
pinpoint why the fun disappeared. And remember, the best
part of losing something is finding it again.
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Linda Ryan and Luke Vorstermans are the founders of The
Sense of Smell Lab, a world leader in the development of
innovative products that use our sense of smell to
influence behavior, trigger memories, manage cravings,
enhance moods and improve sexual health. To learn more
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