Take Pleasure in Your Food!
Several years ago, my partner David taught a photography
workshop at a small villa in southern Italy. Up early one
morning, David drank his coffee with a couple of students
while the owner prepared breakfast and sang operatic arias.
The owner spoke passionately about Italians' love of food
and family being at the heart of their culture. "Yes, food
is very important to us. We care about the preparation and
the serving and the sharing of it. We have an expression,
'the food is under the table'. What really matters is not
so much the food itself, but the way we serve and eat and
the connection of the people coming together!"
Beneath the theories and ideas of what we should or
shouldn't eat, there is in each of us a longing for
nourishment of a deeper sort. This deeper nourishment may
be even more important for our health than the actual food
we eat. Just as we need vitamins and minerals and amino
acids, we need the nourishment derived from the pleasure of
eating and the pleasure of gathering with others.
How we eat may be at least as important for our health as
what we eat! Even the most nutritious food, eaten while we
are anxious or angry, is difficult to digest. The most
delicious, most artfully prepared meal will be wasted on us
when we are eating in a rushed or stressful mood. Too much
anxiety over what we should eat and rigid correctness in
our diet spoils the pleasure of eating and contributes to
eating disorders and obesity.
Let's bring to our eating a sense of what really matters
and create mealtimes that are harmonious, relaxing,
friendly and beautiful. Here are a few suggestions.
1. Sit down while you eat. One of my clients effortlessly
lost ten pounds by committing to this practice. Eating on
the go made for poor digestion and left her feeling
chronically hungry. Sitting while she ate brought new
awareness and a sense of satisfaction to her eating.
2. Gather together around a table with family and friends.
Studies consistently show that children benefit from
growing up in families that frequently eat meals together.
Adolescents in these families have lower rates of
depression, suicide, eating disorders and drug and alcohol
use and are better at reading, school performance and
social skills. I haven't seen any studies about the
positive effects of shared mealtimes on single people and
adults, but I am willing to bet it aids in longevity,
happiness, immunity and feelings of well-being.
3. Create an environment for eating that is relaxed and
pleasurable.
* Treat yourself and those you love to a beautifully set
table. This is a sensory reminder to slow down, to notice
and to appreciate your meal and the people you are with.
* Decorate your table as a celebration of your daily meals.
This can be very simple and very inexpensive Use a candle,
a fabric cloth, a bowl of fruit, flowers or special
objects. Decorate with whatever makes you feel happy to be
alive.
* Play music that helps you feel relaxed and peaceful.
* Soft lighting is not only romantic but calming to your
nervous system and conducive to digestion.
4. KISS: Keep It Simple Sweetie! In my early twenties,
newly married, I thought that any time we had company I
needed to serve impressive meals. Not surprisingly, we
didn't entertain often. Now, I think of gathering with
people, rather than entertaining, and I know that serving
simple foods with a loving spirit is enough. As the
opera-singing Italian chef told David, there are many years
when most Italians have very little money. But even when
all they have is the simplest and least expensive food,
they enjoy it fully. That is what matters.
5. Notice the emotional qualities you bring to your eating
* Rushing, guilt, anxiety and discord make for poor
digestion and absorption of nutrients.
* Avoid harsh conversations, distractions and multi-tasking.
* Cultivate enjoyment, relaxation, pleasure, friendly
interaction.
6. Pause for a few moments of gratitude before eating.
Living in gratitude enhances your immune system, lowers
pain and brings a sense of well-being to every cell of your
body. Even a few moments of gratitude prepares your body to
receive the value of the food, physically and emotionally.
Some ways to enjoy basking in gratitude:
* A formal prayer.
* Holding of hands.
* Silent appreciation for all the beings who contributed to
the meal.
* Shared breath of appreciation. Ahhh. This earth. This
food. This table. These people. This moment.
* A poem of gratitude.
7. Enjoy the people you are with.
* Whether you are eating alone, with one person, or a
group, wake up and notice.
* Appreciate the ones you are with. Take in their gifts.
Look at them and listen to their stories.
8. Enjoy your food.
* While you are eating take time to sense and appreciate
the food. Savor with all your senses the colors,
fragrances, textures, tastes.
* Any foods on your avoid list can be a delightful treat
occasionally. I don't eat pecan pie very often but when I
do, I really let myself love it. Throw out guilt and
embrace the pleasure of eating.
* Eating with pleasure and appreciation will help you feel
deeply satisfied.
Let your meals be a celebration of life and the bounty of
the earth. When we live with care for the everyday
pleasures, we bring healing and deep nourishment to our
bodies, our hearts, our relationships and our world.
Bon appetite!
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