This article is aimed at women. Why? Because, of course,
yes, there are alternatives to Viagra but most men wouldn't
be interested in them. They don't want an alternative. They
want the dream. They've bought the myth of the Magic Pill.
Whatever the problem - whether it's rage, or lack of
talent, or a physical infirmity - they assume there has to
be something small and powdery that you can pop down your
throat and solve the problem. Remember, Men are from Mars.
No argument there. They want 'a solution'. Just like all
the unemployed youth in deprived Inner City estates (or
hedonistic airheads in well-paid jobs and empty,
worth-nothing careers) they look for the answers in a
chemical.
It won't work. In the first place, you can't cure old age.
The years go by and your eyesight goes, your sense of smell
gets worse, your memory fades. Why shouldn't your manly
bits lose their vigour? Men can't accept that. They love
the idea that you can pop a pill and feel as frisky and
wanting as when you were in your 20's. How would they know?
How can they see what's happening down there in their groin
area when they're peering over mounds of excess flab and
unwanted stomach? Having taken their bodies for granted for
years, and filled them full of calorie-packed beer and
processed meat, they expect it all to keep on functioning
perfectly, delivering satisfaction in the bedroom, just
like it always did.
Ask their wives. If women told it like it really is - which
men would hate to hear - the truth is that most men are
hopeless in the bedroom. Women know that, but they haven't
the heart to tell their menfolk. When the men say proudly,
'Viagra has made me feel 10 years younger', most women will
cringe and think, 'It wasn't that great ten years ago'. The
fact is that the majority of men are selfish lovers. All
they care about is their own satisfaction. They hear their
wives moan with feigned pleasure and are fooled. Viagra can
give them more of that, but they shouldn't be surprised if
their partners look underwhelmed at their new,
enthusiastic, pill-enhanced performance.
There are many alternatives to Viagra, including Bach
Flower Remedies, Thought Field Therapy and Knipe Water
Therapy. Unfortunately they all take time and effort and
don't give that immediate feeling of 'I can carry on as I
am' while the loving deficit is restored. For a start,
here's an idea. Why not be more sexy? Stop doing what you
do, men, spending all your time with your pals in pubs and
clubs, enjoying sport and senseless chatter, and devote
more time to your partners. Take your wives out to dinner,
spend at least some of your attention in listening to what
they have to say, and see the returns in the warm reception
you might get later at night. The fact is that most women
respond to an attentive lover, not someone who's idea of
sex is ten minutes last thing on a Saturday night before
sleep.
Here's another idea. Give up sex. Yes, admit your age and
grow old gracefully. If you're a man in his 40s or 50s,
then no, you aren't going to have the fire of your old
self, twenty years earlier. Discuss it with your wife. Ask
her if she really would miss doing what you did back then.
Ah, but there's a catch. Yes, you have to talk to her. I
said it again. You have to discuss your troubles and be
prepared for a bit of the big 'E', emotion, something most
men run from in terror. Instead, they want to go on the
internet, look up the word Viagra, see the millions - yes,
millions - of opportunities to find it, spend some money
and get Magic Pills delivered to their door. Then, well,
it's worth it, isn't it? It means you don't have to discuss
things with anyone - those embarrassing, personal things -
you can fix the problem, (or so you think), and go right on
believing you will never grow old, nothing will change, and
you won't have to adjust to anything. There's only one
issue left. That it's a strictly one-sided view of things,
and, like the man used to say, 'It takes two to tango'.
Shouldn't you be discussing your dance steps with your
partner? Or are you too ashamed to break the habit of a
lifetime?
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Mike Scantlebury is an Internet Author, with novels,
articles and self-help manuals to his credit. This article
is extracted from a new book he is writing on men's health.
You can order your copy at his download site. Try
http://www.mikescantlebury.biz where you can find links to
his many web sites and exciting news from his part of
Manchester, England.
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