Zen and Your Sex

Zen can be your sex, and your sex can be Zen.

Zen is one of the many paths to attaining true wisdom.

By choice, Zen could play a critical role in your life; it
could serve as a beacon for your longevity living. Since
sex is a part of life, Zen could also have an impact on
your sex life.

Zen is not a religion; rather it is a pure spiritual
philosophy connecting you in the most basic way to the core
of your being, the source from which all things are
created, and thereby transcending the boundaries of time
and space.

Firstly, sex is sacred; it is the source of creation. Human
desire is natural and should not be denied.

You don't have to look outside of yourself for satisfaction
of that desire. In Zen, everything is within yourself.
Inward is where the key to happiness lies – the key to the
very meaning of existence, including the better sex that
you may crave.

Everyday life, including sex, is the path to Zen wisdom.
Just focus on the "experience" of life, including your
"experience" of sex.

According to Zen, you are of the very thing you are looking
for. Do not make sex a goal or even a big deal; instead,
let sex results naturally from the way you live your life.
That is, don't "try" to do it; you simply "do" it
naturally. This "doing without doing" is the essence of
Zen. This ultimate sublime wisdom of living is aptly
expressed in the following:

Therefore . . . . . The sage keeps to the beginning to
discover the end . . . . . And finds without seeking . . .
. . Arrives without leaving . . . . . Does without doing
. . . . . And knows without understanding.

Ponder on every word above, and intuit its meaning. The
wisdom of Zen underscores the "spontaneity" of things. The
wisdom is quite different from the Biblical wisdom of "seek
and you shall find." There is a saying: "If you seek the
Buddha, you will lose it."

The great challenge of Zen sex is to do what comes
naturally in every moment to express naturally in every
sexual act. In that way, sex never becomes a performance or
a means to satisfy your sexual pleasure or that of your
partner.

Sex is nothing more than an experience of discovery – the
discovery of the desires and needs of yourself and your
partner. Discovery brings in another aspect of Zen wisdom:
the need of "emptying" your mind to be receptive to new
experiences. You have to "empty" yourself of any
preconceived ideas before you can discover new ones.

Zen emphasizes "no expectations." That eliminates
frustration not uncommon in any sexual relationship. Just
enjoy the process, not mindful of the outcome. Zen focuses
on "the present moment." Let the moment come without
rushing into it. When you rush towards it, you may lose the
feeling of self-control. On the other hand, if you relax,
you recapture it. Do not focus on "doing it." If you do,
you may end up "desiring or wanting to do it" instead of
actually "doing it."

What is greater thing to make in this world than love? Love
is the true transcendent climax of sex, when you feel that
higher power of love. Just make love in sex. You can
discover the sublime truth of life in anything and
anywhere. The glory of creation abounds and surrounds each
and every one of us. Only you can capture its significance.
Just make love and enjoy it.

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Stephen Lau is a writer and researcher, writing synopses of
medical research. He has book publications on health,
Internet business, teaching children to read, and fiction.
He has created several websites, including "Longevity For
You" and "Healthy Lifestyle Is The Way Of Zen" on health,
and "Golfing Success Info" on playing golf.
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